Your grief is real.
Me: You are grieving
You: No, I am not…I am okay – I am not grieving…
We are all grieving
Change brings grief
And most that are living now do not remember disruption
and change like we have experienced as of late
(Just in case you are asking, I have only talked to those are 85 and below)
Now is change,
Now is grief
This grief is real
We all experience it at different levels
And as people do, we all deal with it in different ways
We all cope
Some coping mechanisms are good
Some are not so good
Some are deeply harmful
I am grieving this morning
I grieve not seeing the people I normally see
I grieve not having dinner with my father
I grieve not being able to go to Red River Gorge
I grieve Sunday afternoon BBQ’s with friends
I grieve not hugging people
I grieve not looking people in the face and seeing their whole face
I grieve that people are experiencing job loss
I grieve that others are experiencing relational crisis
I grieve that many are plunging into the deep waters of depression
I grieve addictions are that are running without check
I grieve the loss of lives that we are experiencing
Many want to fight
Many want to argue: is this whole Covid-19 really real?
Me: yes it is
And yet, when we are in IT, logic matters little
So let’s not argue about the validity or the response of our political folks
Or any other thing else we are fighting about now
fighting = simply a way to cope with our grief.
Let’s lay that down for just a moment.
can we please agree that we are hurting
That we are grieving
That we are experiencing deep change?
Can we find some unity in our common heartache?
And if we can
Then we can move together into what is next
We can move with the posture of a common heart
And a common good for people.
Let us find unity in our grief.
Then we can move forward with others in mind
United we stand
Divided we fall
There is a better story out there for us
Acknowledging we are hurting is the first step in living that better story